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A Short Lived Relationships

Possible Issues

- You don't have too much trouble finding partners but the relationship is usually short-lived.

- You fall deeply in love with somebody but all too soon problems arise in the relationship.

- You are continually being left in a relationship.

- You have had a string of one-night-stands that never turn into long-term relationships.

The Cause

Short-lived relationships are usually an indication that you are either choosing the wrong type of person or that your insecurities around relationships are causing you to either leave too early or the other person leaves you before the relationship has had a chance to develop.

A relationship brings us close together with another person both physically and emotionally. Such intimacy will always bring up emotional issues and insecurities that both partners may have subconsciously chosen not to deal with in their lives. When this happens the level of emotional pain increases to the point that one or both partners may bail out rather than deal with the issues. In many cases this spoils what could otherwise develop into a long-term, successful relationship.

The Way Through

If those early feelings of love begin to fade and are replaced by anxiety and uncertainty, do not act too hastily - give the relationship a chance. The key to developing an early relationship is to understand that intimacy will bring up both partner's fears and unhealed emotional issues. You can think of this as the primary purpose of a relationship. These challenges give you the opportunity to grow as individuals and form a supportive partnership.

However, to achieve this you will need to be willing to continually move towards your partner and maintain the communication, even when they are behaving badly. Remember bad behaviour is always a sign of a deeper level of emotional pain and can be the cue for you to show compassion. This is what emotional maturity is all about. As you gain trust you will learn to work through your shared concerns and anxieties about the relationship and build a lasting partnership.

If you give the relationship a chance and try to work through those first 'issues' that arise you will be in a much better position to assess the truth of the relationship.

I'm BACK!!!!!!!

Almost 2 year plus i never update my blog here, in between this 2 years have a lot of things happen on my life, my life is totally changing on this pass 2 years.....leaving is most important to make a people change. Time change, Things change, people change........

Know a guy on facebook, the guy convince me and finally fall in love deeply with him. When we together a lot of my friends, colleague told me he is not a good guy and he is player but dont' believe them i just believe him and trust him. This relationship is reli make me almost get crazy, lost myself, not logically love him and in the end broke off on last 2 weeks..........write until here the sadness heart is coming back. I took this guy is a future or the last guy i meat decided to staying down, but is just 11 months we cannot click together, compromise and break off. I never regret i fall in love him, but for him----his not, he hate me and found a lot of reason to pointed me. Now I know if a man the heart is die, he will find a lot of reason want to break off with you and all the reason he giving actually is a small matter and we can solve it by ourself. This is reli make me disappointed and finally let him go. A deeply hurt is make me grow up and mature.......is not memory for him anymore but is still on my memory, i'm human is not cool animal i have emotion, if i tell u i can totally forgot is lie to you, i reli need time to recover, but i tell myself i need to recover fast!!!!! maybe is good for me i no need to give him scolding like mad, no need to see their family face, i can do back myself. I more like people pamper is not scolding. I know myself i'm not the bad temperament person, i'm soft and gentle, this is all from my parent. From baby till now my parent all pamper and treat me like a princess, i totally dont' know how to cook and no chance enter to kitchen cook and wash cloths, maybe this is my weak point, a lot of guys like girlfriends know to cook and take care of them, but i really not the type, but for him i really will learn, learn for anything but he not appreciate me......haih....anyway everything is end, all the beautiful things is become memory......